I need your help! ★ Tips for surviving a newborn & toddler

April 20, 2013 by flyingdrunkenmonkey

How to survive a newborn & a toddler? - The Flying Drunken Monkey

As you have probably gathered I am due to have our second baby in the next few weeks. Due to having Gestational Diabetes I will probably be having the baby around my due date – either due to “speeding things along” naturally or through an induction.

My mum is coming to stay with us just before my due date (she’s my second labour support person) and will stay at our house while I’m in hospital. Knowing Mum she’ll probably keep the house to a much better standard than I normally will – i.e. dishes done every day and vacuuming done a lot more regularly. So, I’m sure I’ll come home to a tidy house (no Mum I’m not expecting it, I just know how you are!)

Mr Monkey is hoping to take 2 weeks off from work once I have the baby but it is hard for him to organise – as he can’t actually give any notice he’ll most likely have to call in sick on the day I go in to labour and then hope that the other chefs can then cover him for the two weeks. I would love for him to be home for those two weeks but I can’t guarantee it.

So, what do I need from you? Tips. Lots of tips!!

What did you find to be life savers in the first few months after having a baby, when you already have a toddler at home? What are your tips for making sure everyone is happy, that the house stays in some semblance of an order, that the toddler actually gets fed?

Most of what I can remember from those first few weeks and months with Lily as a newborn was doing… well not much. Sitting on the couch feeding a lot, late dinners of toast because she wouldn’t settle, sleeping whenever she slept. I know it’s going to be so much different having another little person to feed and entertain.

So, if you’ve had more than one baby please let me know how you coped!!

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  1. When Eli was born Ethan was 13.5 months old.
    I think Ethan being younger made life a little easier. He was walking but never ventured far. Hadn’t reached the terrible two’s just yet and still had one huge nap (2-3 hours) in the middle of the day.
    I tried to prepare him a snack box that I would get out if I felt he would be hungry when I sat to feed.
    We have a small play area that we enclosed with two baby gates. I placed a chair suitable to feed in in there too.
    So when it was feeding time, I’d pop ABC2 on, get his snack and drink and then sit to feed. Was easy having him contained and with what he needed for that time.
    I did my best to work their sleep times in together eventually. Impossible to do in those first couple of months though.
    Luckily their sleeps did coincide for the most part.
    I was lucky to have Brian home for the first 4 weeks. But we were all very ill, with what we now suspect was Swine flu (was at the height of it all) so we all slept lots those first few weeks which made life easier too. Even Ethan was 2up 2 down in the day!

    Most importantly be gentle on yourself. Don’t stress about things not getting done as you’ll get to them eventually. Easier said than done if you’re like me, I hate going to bed with a messy house.
    Hopefully Mr Monkey will step up to the plate and do the cooking and some of the cleaning for you so that you can concentrate on you an mums and Miss Lily.
    Oh and when you do get on your feet, getting dinner prepped early in the morning makes such a difference. We all know what The Witching Hour can be like and trying to cook then is a nightmare.
    Wish you all the best sweetie, looking forward to hearing of your arrival :) xx

    • Cassie says:

      Thanks Becci! ABC4Kids is already a big lifesaver in this house and Lily is getting a nice collection of DVDs so they will probably come in handy too.

      I like the idea of a snack box! I think I’ll have to make sure that all of Lily’s snacks are fully stocked up and perhaps move them to somewhere she can access them a little better.

      Doing dinner in the morning is a good idea – I think I’m also going to look at some good slow cooker meals as they seem to be the easiest.

  2. nadine says:

    You were a very good baby which made having 2 children much easier so hope for a good baby :)

  3. Lollerskater says:

    I’ve only got the one, but I bet a big life-saving tip would be Grandma! Sorry I can’t be more help :) Looking forward to hearing of Baby Monkey’s arrival. xo

  4. My two are 19 months apart. I must admit that early stage is a bit of a haze when J-Man came home. I was very saw after a caesar. I remember spending lots of time breastfeeding on the lounge and ABCKids coming in very handy. Being able to coordinate the kids’ daysleeps was heaven although it didn’t always happen! Good luck!! Fi xx
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